This morning I got a call from a childhood friend I haven't seen in maybe 8 years. He wants me to be the best man at his wedding. I'm not really against the idea, and it's nice that he thinks so much of me, but there are a few issues. His wedding is in Hawaii. In my current financial state, the only way I'm going to Hawaii is if it's free. It's not. I don't know the bride at all. I've never met her or heard any stories about her, and I have no idea how they met. Typically, I think, the best man knows something about all that, or perhaps has at least MET THE GIRL. I mean, don't you have to give a little speech about it? Anyway. Last thing is, we haven't hung out in 8 years because he was sometimes problematic to be around. Some of it I don't like because I see his character flaws in myself, some are things my mom used to do which still drive me nuts (Ex: history revision to preserve a claim to have "never been wrong"), but it's all stuff that I'd really rather not be around. Granted, it has been many years, and he's been through Army training. I didn't talk to him - he left a message. This is going to be a tough call to return.